Who's Flying This Thing?

Oh. Right. That would be me. Back to work...

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consider the bank.

gyzym:

You know, a few months ago this dude friend of mine showed up to hang out with me all dejected. Over a couple of drinks he explained his long face — earlier that night, he’d been walking down the street behind this really cute girl, and when she looked back at him over her shoulder, he thought it was in interest and smiled at her. Now, this guy is tall and skinny, can most commonly be found in glasses and t-shirts scrawled across with math jokes, is kind to animals, considers himself a feminist. What he doesn’t consider himself is threatening, so he was surprised, confused, and even hurt by what happened next: the girl in front of him responding to his called greeting of, “Nice skirt,” by taking off down the darkened street in a dead run. 

"Yeah," I said, "she probably thought you were going to rape her." 

"But that’s not fair,” he said. “I’m a good person; I’d never rape anyone! How could she think that? She doesn’t even know me.” 

Out here in the wilds of the internet, I often find myself making arguments about shit like feminism and rape culture unilaterally. For one thing, there’s so much (like, so much) out there arguing unilaterally against this shit that I feel it’s necessary; for another thing, ‘round these parts there’s a lot of people jumping to hostility when it’s painfully clear they don’t have a handle on all the facts. But I’m more lenient with the people in my real life, especially dudes like the one mentioned above. I’m willing to extend to them a patience that I wouldn’t with strangers on the internet, because they matter to me, and it matters to me that they understand. So when my friend sat there that night, whining over his beer and responding to my attempted explanations with, “But I’d love it if a girl smiled at me on the street, or even catcalled at me! Fuck, even if a dude did it, I’d be flattered,” I decided to spend some time thinking about how to clear things up for him. It took awhile, but I finally came up with a metaphor to get the job done:

Consider the bank. 

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hawk-justice:

whosflyingthisthing:

pardonmewhileipanic:

hawk-justice:

pardonmewhileipanic:

EXCEEPPPTTTT

*in which ellen laughed*

POST

or how about 

POST

or the multiple times she dressed up as fatter/overly sexualized woc for “halloween” 

see: nicki & sofia

there’s probably more, but what’s listed is enough to prove ellen is full of it

Everyone is a hypocrite. Chill the stank out.

go to hell

i personally hate you for attempting to silence people who are exposing problematic fucks

trip in a pile of glass

stop following me

blocked

<rant> I liked Ellen… and it makes me sad to learn she’s said/done such stupid crap! But I would never excuse her behaviour by saying “Everyone is a hypocrite”… God Damnit! This reminds me of what I hate about Rob Ford - he and his supporters keep repeating that he’s only human, and everyone makes mistakes… Yes, Rob… everyone does make mistakes. But most people don’t drink and drive, abuse our partners, smoke crack, and make a mockery of the themselves and city they’re meant to be governing, in the world media!! </rant>

I would like to point out that the user pardonmewhileipanic tried to silence me for exposing the human race as hypocritical by being a bully. I find that especially funny since the intent of her post was to expose Ellen DeGeneres as being a hypocrite on the subject of bullying. However, I understand. I too struggle with being honest about my imperfections. 

I would also like to point out that you told her to “chill the stank out”. That is incredibly offensive.  In using the language that you did, you provoked her, and now you claim that SHE’S the bully because she met your rude, trolling behaviour with rudeness of her own? That’s not how bullying works. You are kidding yourself if you think that your comment would incite anything than what you received. 

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beeftony:

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adrianestpierre:

Gaston really is the most terrifying Disney villain because he could be anyone in the world.

Later he convinces the whole town to set up his wedding with the knowledge that the would-be bride would be thrown into it. Everyone finds his creepy-ass tactics as cute and “boys will be boys” esque. So yeah, he is terrifying.

Yeah, the truly scary thing about Beauty and the Beast isn’t that Gaston exists, but that society fucking loves him. People who deride the movie by saying it’s about Stockholm Syndrome are ignoring that it’s actually about the various ways that truly decent people get othered by society. People don’t trust the Beast because of the way he looks, which only feeds his anger issues and pushes him further away. Gaston isn’t the only one who criticizes Belle for being bookish, either; the whole town says there must be something wrong with her. And her father gets carted off to a mental asylum for being just a little eccentric.

Howard Ashman, who collaborated on the film’s score and had a huge influence on the movie’s story and themes, was a gay man who died of AIDS shortly after work on the film was completed. If you watch the film with that in mind, the message of it becomes clear. Gaston demonstrates that bullies are rewarded and beloved by society as long as they possess a certain set of characteristics, while nice people who don’t are ostracized. The love story between Belle and the Beast is about them finding solace in each other after society rejects them both.

Notice how the Beast reacts when the whole town comes for him. He’s not angry, he’s sad. He’s tired. And he almost gives up because he has nothing to live for. But then he sees that Belle has come back for him, and suddenly he does. In the original fairy tale, the Beast asks Belle to marry him every night, and the spell is broken when she accepts. In the Disney movie, he waits for her to love him, because he cannot love himself. That’s how badly being ostracized from society and told that you’re a monster all your life can fuck with your head and make you stop seeing yourself as human.

Society rewards the bullies because we’ve been brought up to believe that their victims don’t belong. That if someone doesn’t fit in, then they have to be put in their place, or destroyed. And this movie demonstrates that this line of thinking is wrong. It’s so much deeper than a standard “be yourself” message, and that’s why it’s one of my favorite Disney movies.

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pardonmewhileipanic:

hawk-justice:

pardonmewhileipanic:

EXCEEPPPTTTT

*in which ellen laughed*

POST

or how about 

POST

or the multiple times she dressed up as fatter/overly sexualized woc for “halloween” 

see: nicki & sofia

there’s probably more, but what’s listed is enough to prove ellen is full of it

Everyone is a hypocrite. Chill the stank out.

go to hell

i personally hate you for attempting to silence people who are exposing problematic fucks

trip in a pile of glass

stop following me

blocked

<rant> I liked Ellen… and it makes me sad to learn she’s said/done such stupid crap! But I would never excuse her behaviour by saying “Everyone is a hypocrite”… God Damnit! This reminds me of what I hate about Rob Ford - he and his supporters keep repeating that he’s only human, and everyone makes mistakes… Yes, Rob… everyone does make mistakes. But most people don’t drink and drive, abuse our partners, smoke crack, and make a mockery of the themselves and city they’re meant to be governing, in the world media!! </rant>

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